The primary time I knew that my ex-partner could be there for me in good occasions and dangerous, was once we had been on trip in Greece and missed our ferry. There we had been, abroad with the following ferry not leaving for an additional fourteen hours. Whereas it will have been straightforward for us to panic (it felt like our entire day/evening was ruined!) my ex took all of it in stride, remaining cool as a cucumber.
It wasn’t very best, however as he mentioned that day, “we’ll simply make one of the best of it” — which we did. I’m susceptible to nervousness, so seeing how he reacted to being stranded for fourteen hours made me really feel a lot extra relaxed. We ended up having a reasonably good day. I knew that when tougher stuff got here up in our relationship, we’d haven’t any downside dealing with it collectively.
Relationships aren’t good. Life occurs and also you usually need to take care of surprising stuff collectively. So, how are you aware if the individual you’re courting is as much as the duty?
Listed below are just a few indicators they’ll be there for you when occasions get powerful:
- You are feeling comfy speaking to them once you’re upset.
As an alternative of brushing your troubles apart, they’ll hearken to you and let you converse your fact. Whether or not you want a hug or simply somebody to hear whilst you vent, you are feeling utterly comfy coming to them once you’re upset.
- They’re affected person and don’t anger simply.
If the individual you’re with will get upset over the smallest issues (like when their steak arrives medium-well, as a substitute of medium-rare), they’re most likely not going to fare that properly when one thing critical pops up. You need somebody who’s affected person and is ready to maintain their anger in examine when occasions get powerful.
- They’ve shut relationships with family and friends.
If they’ve shut relationships with different individuals, there’s a very good likelihood they’ve a constructive observe file of supporting different individuals by powerful occasions as properly.
- They’re empathetic.
Even when they haven’t needed to overcome a number of adversity of their life, they’re empathetic to different individuals’s struggles.
- They’ll discuss their emotions.
As an alternative of bottling up all of their emotions till they blow up, they’re fairly comfy speaking about how they really feel and listening to you do the identical.
- Communication isn’t a difficulty.
You guys discuss every thing. If one thing difficult arises, you haven’t any challenge addressing it with the opposite individual (even when it’s a bit awkward at first).
- They’ve their life collectively.
Whereas this isn’t a tough and set rule, if they’ve their life roughly collectively, it’s going to be simpler for them to assist you emotionally when issues go fallacious.
- They’re not afraid of your germs.
Life isn’t all the time fairly. In the event that they’re extra involved along with your well-being than your germs (particularly once you’re not feeling 100%) it’s a very good signal that they’re in it for the lengthy haul.
- You’ve traveled collectively.
Whereas enjoyable and thrilling, touring can be actually annoying. There’s flights to make, bookings to maintain observe of and tons of unpredictable elements that may pop up once you’re in a brand new place. For those who journey properly collectively, that’s a very good signal you’ll be capable to deal with larger stresses and occasions later down the road.
- They such as you in your sweatpants.
In the event that they’ve seen you at your highest (dressed to the nines and feeling on high of the world) and at your worst (sick, gross and in your sweatpants) and so they’re nonetheless the identical in the direction of you (caring, type, supportive) then congrats, you’ve received a keeper.
